(a Thought for the Week)
"When you follow your bliss... doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn't be a door for anyone else." ~ Joseph Campbell "If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." ~ Henry David Thoreau "Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he or she begins with some wild expectations." ~ Ralph Charell |
(a Thought for the Week)
(a Thought for the Week)
(a Thought for the Week)
Deliberately create your day
Believe it or not, it is possible to radically alter how you feel without changing your circumstances and here is a simple technique to help you do this: Each morning, before you dive head-first into your day, think very clearly about how you want your day to be, and most importantly how you want to be during the day. If you want, you could even write it down in a small notebook - I did when I first started practicing this technique - so that you can handily refer to it later in the day whenever you notice you're no longer centred in that place of being. But whether you do it in writing or in your mind's eye, the most important thing is that you decide how you want your day to go, and then focus on that for at least a few minutes before you get started. The more energy you can put into these thoughts, the better your day will be. So if you normally spend your journey to work thinking “Ugh, I have to do x and meet y, and I’m tired and stressed", or other thoughts along those lines, try going over and over in your mind your new script instead: “Today I get through my workload productively and effectively. I’m relaxed and confident and I capably deal with every situation whether it is planned or unexpected. I feel great all day and enjoy what I’m doing and the people I’m interacting with.” Substitute the above for whatever you want from your day and be amazed at the difference it can make.
When I first tried this technique I was in a very sceptical place. But I was also so miserable at work that I figured I had nothing to lose. So I opened my mind just enough to give it a go. I had such an amazing day it really blew my mind, and I have never looked back : )
Try it and see for yourself!
Detach from your Desires
"Life is a tide; float on it. Go down with it and go up with it, but be detached. Then it is not difficult." ~ Prem Rawal
If you could let go of all your attachments you would also let go of the source of much of your unhappiness. Attachment to our desires is about more than our material desires, but also our emotional and spiritual desires. It's attachment to how we think things should be, or how we would really like them to be.
It can be attachment to the idea that we have to have full physical health in order to be happy, or that we have to be sad for a time if someone we love leaves us. While these ideas may seem logical, it actually doesn't have to be that way. These are merely beliefs. And, as discussed in B is for... they rule our lives, BUT they can also be changed if they don't serve us well.
The concept of detaching from our desires is one I am constantly working on, but I see time and again how important it is to my happiness. Having desires is not an impediment to being happy - it is natural and normal, and is what gives us impetus to get out of bed in the mornings and live our lives. But being attached to having our desires manifest is a very real obstacle - to our happiness, and in fact to the manifestation we wish for.
Attachment is an obstacle to having what you want in your life, because it is resistance to the way things are unfolding. And what you resist persists. When you cling to the idea that you cannot be happy unless things happen in a certain way, then you are closing down other avenues that could lead you to where you ultimately want to go.
To be happier and more content, no matter how things are unfolding, the approach to aim for is preference:
A Thought for the Week
"You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land, there is no other life but this." ~ Henry David Thoreau
"Live life so completely that when death comes to you like a thief in the night, there will be nothing left for him to steal." ~ Unknown
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." ~ Helen Keller
"We don't have endless days. We have today." ~ Unknown
New here on my blog, The Game of Life is an ezine I have been sending to subscribers via email for three and a half years. To receive your copy direct to your email inbox click here.
This edition is focussed on surviving and thriving during difficult times. It's inspired by the global economic crisis that is causing widespread stress and despair, and so there are a few resources that focus directly on dealing with being unemployed right now.
However, "difficult times" aren't limited to financial hardships, and can apply in every area of our lives. So, there's also some resources that look at dealing with difficult situations in general. I hope you find something of use to you.
Read on...
"We’re living in a time where nearly everyone is feeling overwhelmed with the changes and problems in the world. Some of us feel stuck, uninspired and fearful. Others have suffered major losses and feel hopeless and helpless. Some people find ways to thrive even in bad times. They refuse to fall into 'the sky is falling mode'.”
In this post Tess of The Bold Life outlines no fewer than 77 ways to lighten up in tough times. And here she provides a list of the simple joys in life that money really and truly cannot buy. Just reading it will give you a lift.
Life is like climbing a mountain!
"We’ll stumble along the way in life. Our ego’s will be bruised. We might be broken financially or emotionally. Yet, that doesn’t mean we’re finished, or that our mountain peak isn't attainable."
In this post Lance from The Jungle of Life beautifully describes the various life lessons we can gain from this metaphor. If it feels like you're climbing a mountain right now, you may find some solace in this.
Meditation is the perfect antidote to stress!
I am just a few weeks away from being certified (hopefully) as an instructor in primordial sound meditation, and I believe that meditation could actually be the perfect solution to all of the worlds ills! It's a big claim I know, which is probably why I have yet to blog about it!
Whether you'd go along with such a huge claim or not, there is plenty of scientific evidence as to the wonderful benefits of meditation. And happily, Roger from A Content Life has posted a wonderful six part series on meditation for beginners.
There are many, many different ways to meditate, and how you do it isn't really important. We don't judge our meditation by the experience during the practice but by the results in our lives afterwards. So, the key is to experiment with different techniques until you find one that suits you. Roger's series is perfect for people new to meditation and walks you through a few different techniques.
If you are out of work:
Although the landscape is very bleak at the moment, there are jobs out there to be found. The difficulty though in the current climate is that the competition is fierce. Because unemployment rates are so high the sheer quantity of applications for vacant positions is overwhelming to those doing the hiring.
The first hurdle in a job search is just to get noticed. Sending out blanket job applications is a surefire strategy to receive blanket rejection - and that will begin to knock your self confidence, the one thing you really need to nurture right now.
If you're in the job market, you'll need to get a bit more creative about your approach and this article outlines many real-life examples of how people have gotten hired during the current recession. Be sure to read the last two paragraphs too - they're important!
Staying Positive
This Wall Street Journal article looks at the benefits of volunteering, not only for the feel-good factor of doing something worthwhile with your time, but also because of the opportunity to upskill and open yourself up to a potential new career.
And here, Bob Lotich writes about how maintaining a positive attitude in the face of being laid off can help you find your next (maybe even better) job.
Book Review
There is a spiritual solution to every problem by Wayne Dyer.
In this book Dyer takes a prayer by St Francis of Assisi and breaks it down into a series of lessons. He proposes that, if applied in your day to day life, these concepts will raise the vibration of your energy. What this means essentially, is that you'll live your life in closer relationship with your Spirit, and thereby find a spiritual solution to any issue that arises.
Dyer's own sense of inner peace pervades his writing, and he provides many, many practical examples from his own life and the lives of his readers as to how these principles really do provide solutions that you wouldn't logically expect.
The book is divided into two sections. The first provides an easy-to-grasp theoretical foundation to what it means and why it's important to align your energy with that of Spirit. Part two gives you the practical steps - how to align your energy with Spirit by following the principles outlined in St Francis' prayer.
Maybe you have some serious problems in your life right now, and maybe you don't. But one thing is for sure, you will have serious problems to deal with between now and the end of your days. That's a given. And our challenge in this life lies in how we deal with each issue that arises. Reading this book will (in my humble opinion) help you to prepare for, and cope with those challenges as and when they come up.
The prayer:
Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.
O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console,
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
It is in dying to self that we are born to eternal life. ~ Saint Francis of Assisi
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"Difficulty need not foreshadow despair or defeat. Rather achievement can be all the more satisfying because of obstacles surmounted." ~ William Hastie
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That's my round up of resources on surviving and thriving during difficult times. Next issue (end July/early August) the theme will be self-esteem and giving it a work-out.
In the meantime, any other links to resources on dealing with difficult circumstances will be very welcome!
The Comparison trap (and not falling into it) One way to decrease your happiness is to compare your life, or aspects of it, with that of others. On the surface, there is always someone “better” off than us, and always someone “worse” off than us. But when you fall into the comparison trap, chances are you usually end up focussing more on those who have more, rather than those who have less. And if you do that, envy will start to surface – to your own detriment. All of reality is perception. Perceive your life from a positive angle and you cannot help feeling positive about it, and consequently you will feel happier than if you choose to take the pessimistic view. Life is a game, and the results you get are a direct consequence of your thoughts, words and actions. You may not be able to control all the situations that arise in your life, but you are always in control of how you deal with them and what you make of them. If sometimes it doesn’t feel that way, it’s because you’re not consciously choosing your reaction, but you are choosing it nonetheless. So, if you want to positively influence your happiness levels, stop putting yourself under pressure to do and have what everyone else does and has. Do it your own way and in your own time. When you look at another’s life from the outside, it can seem highly appealing, but being in it can be a whole different kettle of fish. What is fulfilling for one is not necessarily fulfilling for another. The real trick is in discovering what is right for you. Take your time – it’s not a race. It takes as long as it takes, and along the way you’ll be discovering more about yourself, what makes you tick and what really brings you joy. You could be surprised at where your true bliss lies. But if you follow the path of others you’ll be a lot less likely to stumble upon it. Connection A major source of unhappiness for many people is the feeling that they are alone in the world, and this isn’t necessarily a reflection of whether they are single or have a partner. It stems from the illusion of separation that exists in the physical universe. We all appear to be separate entities, but in fact we are all connected by an unseen energy field. This connection applies to everything in our lives – not just what we consider to be other living physical beings, but apparently inanimate objects and also our experiences in life. It is all one big energy field, and we are connected to everybody who appears in our life. When you feel isolated and alone, remind yourself of this fact. It is just an illusion and you are not alone. When you reject the appearance of separation you open yourself up to experiencing the connection that is already there. Remind yourself that you are more than a physical body. You are also a spiritual being and that on the spiritual level you are connected to everyone. Then mentally send love and light to those in your life from whom you’re feeling disconnected. When you send love – unconditionally – to others, you will receive love in return. And with that your feeling of being alone will diminish. You will begin to sense the connection that was there all the time.
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