Letting go of Guilt
I used to say to clients that guilt was a wasted emotion. But I've since come to realise that it's worse than that. Guilt is in fact a destructive emotion, as it drains your energy, and fosters feelings of shame. And shame depletes self-esteem.
So, if you catch yourself in the act of feeling guilty, you need to learn to let it go. I already talked about this somewhat in F is for . . . (forgiving yourself and others).
"It is probable that guilt is merely disguised fear of retribution, either divine or by the person wronged, which is why you punish yourself with shame and flagellation. It's a way, thinks your unconscious mind, to make amends so you don't get punished." ~ Barefoot Doctor
I don't know about you, but when I examined my feelings of guilt in the past, I realised that the above is true. I believe in karma, and while I do feel genuine remorse for my (perceived) acts of wrongdoing, fear of them coming back to bite me is never far away either. But actually, focussing attention on your (perceived) shameful deeds is giving them energy, and increasing the likelihood of your perpetuating actions that give rise to more guilt, or indeed attracting your (perceived) deserved retribution.
It's not too promising for your personal growth really.
Now I try not to indulge in feelings of guilt. They don't contribute to the wellbeing of the person towards whom I'm feeling guilty, and they certainly don't contribute to my wellbeing. Instead, I treat myself with compassion. I acknowledge the action I took that I wish I'd done differently, identify how I might rectify the situation, and resolve to do better in future. Then I let go, and move on.
That's a choice you can make too. Of course, you can choose the guilt, shame and self-flagellation. But it won't do you or anyone else any good whatsoever.
Why not try a different approach instead and see how that serves you?
Giving what you want to receive
“The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy." ~ Florence Scovell Shinn
The experiences you have in your life are always reflecting your thoughts and feelings - the energy you are emitting.
So if there is something you want to receive more of in your life, try giving more of that to those around you. Give love, money, attention, support and you will receive love, money, attention and support – just so long as you give it from a place of genuine love and caring for others. This is absolutely key.
Give what you want to receive, but don't give in order to receive.
If you give in order to receive, you will negate the receiving effect. This is because your underlying intention is based in a feeling of lack - that is the energy you’re emitting and therefore you will continue to attract that lack.
But when you focus on genuinely seeking to help and serve others, you will discover, in many surprising ways, that you are receiving much of the same - and often much, much more - back into your own life.
And another added bonus: when you give what you want to receive, you're less likely to act in ways that lead to guilt ;-)
Goals - but treat them lightly!