I just came across this great Think Positive! blog, and reading a post entitled Men are Intuitive Too! reminded me of this article I wrote last year on how to tune into and learn to trust your intuition if you're not used to doing so. So, I decided to dig it out and post it here:
Are you aware of your inner voice? Do you pay attention to it? I’m not talking about the one who puts you down by the way! I’m talking about the one that softly whispers ideas and suggestions to you – the kind that the other voice might shout down, crying “Are you mad? That requires stepping out of our comfort zone, and that is to be avoided at all costs!” (even if the cost is living a life of mediocrity instead of the one of your dreams)
Sadly, the latter voice is the one most of us are aware of and pay attention to. The more gentle one, that is our intuition, is often ignored – that is if we’re hearing what it tells us at all. The great pity here is that it’s our intuition that really has our best interests at heart. Our gremlin (the louder, more aggressive voice) does have our welfare at heart too, but in a protective way. The intuition’s way is more expansive.
What’s wrong with protecting us? Nothing, of course. But the gremlin's way of protecting is to limit us and ultimately this erodes our well being at a soul level. And of course that’s not good for our physical or emotional well being! If you’re unfulfilled at a soul level, slowly and imperceptibly you will develop a nagging feeling of general discontent which can have a rippling effect on your mood, self esteem and ultimately your physical and mental health.
The gentle voice of your intuition will, if listened to, stretch you beyond your comfort zone, but never more than you’re capable of. It will challenge you, but also support you. It always has your best interests at heart at every level – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It will not only gently nudge you in scary directions which will yield huge and unimaginable rewards, but it will also gently warn when to stop or turn around.
When you tune into your intuition and allow yourself to be guided by it you will be surprised at how much easier formerly assumed “challenges” will become. And how much good fortune lands in your lap (we call it synchronicity). And how good you feel – at ease with yourself and all your life experiences, even the ones you wouldn’t choose!
If you’re not used to listening to your intuition, learning to tune into it will require time and patience. At first, you may be unsure which voice is which (especially as your gremlin often sounds very reasonable), and using your intuition is very much like using your physical muscles. You need to use it regularly in order for it to be in the shape you want.
So how do you get to know your intuition better? First of all, start to watch out for hunches, feelings, ideas that crop up. Pay attention to the voice that accompanies it. Is it gentle, positive, supportive? If it’s aggressive, domineering, or using scare- mongering tactics it’s more likely to be your gremlin. If you’re getting a feeling of warning, is it a loud and threatening one (gremlin) or an insistent “knowing” one (intuition).
The scary thing about trusting your intuition when it’s new to you, is that it’s not based on logic and often what it suggests to you cannot be justified logically. But with practice and trust, you’ll learn that the “knowing” that something is the right thing to do is in your best interests. It’ll be easier to shrug off your own gremlin and that of others (who will fear for your best interests on your behalf).
The key to developing the all essential trust is to start small. Don’t make life-changing decisions based on your intuition if you’re not familiar with it (you might still be confusing your two inner voices). Do ask your intuition to guide you with smaller decisions, and wait for the gentle knowing feeling to arrive. Don’t expect an instant answer, but watch out for it – it will come, and you’ll know it when it does.
Over time, as you tune in more and more, you’ll find you suffer less and less with worry or anxiety. You’ll trust all will work out well, and often you’ll find it works out better than you could ever have imagined!